#005: Breaking Relationship Blocks with Vienna Pharaon

Marriage Myths

Mark Groves and Vienna Pharaon discuss prevalent myths about marriage, such as the loss of sexual activity and the end of the honeymoon phase. Vienna explains that these stories are often unfounded and can create self-fulfilling prophecies, leading couples to believe in negative outcomes that haven't even occurred yet 1. She encourages couples to redefine their own marriage agreements and focus on growth and commitment rather than adhering to societal expectations 2.

We ought to be growing. The version of who I am today should be the worst version of myself that you see.

--- Vienna Pharaon

Mark agrees, noting the importance of creating personalized agreements that reflect the unique dynamics of each relationship.

   

Marriage Fears

Addressing the fears and anxieties surrounding marriage, Mark Groves and Vienna Pharaon highlight the importance of open communication and seeking therapy when needed. Vienna points out that many couples wait too long to seek help, often coming to therapy about four years too late 3. She emphasizes the value of addressing issues early and creating a safe space for honest conversations 4.

Couples come to couple therapy about four years too late.

--- Vienna Pharaon

Mark adds that therapy can be a proactive step in maintaining a healthy relationship, rather than a last resort.