Mark Groves avatar

Dexa/Mark Groves

Learn more
Published Sep 23, 2019

#050: Holding Space For Heartbreak with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg

Mark Groves and Dr. Jeremy Goldberg explore the transformative power of heartbreak, the impact of family dynamics, and the importance of personal responsibility and self-reflection in emotional healing and growth.
Episode Highlights
The Mark Groves Podcast logo

Topics covered

Popular Clips

Questions from this episode

Episode Highlights

  • Family Dynamics

    and discuss the complexities of family dynamics, particularly in the context of divorce and blended families. Jeremy shares how his parents' divorce expanded the love in his life, introducing him to step-siblings and step-parents, which he views as a positive outcome. Mark emphasizes that witnessing a relationship end gracefully can be a valuable lesson for children, contrasting it with the harm caused by parents who stay together unhappily.

    Watching parents resent each other and use their kids as triangulation techniques is way worse than departing.

    ---

    They both agree that even a perfect childhood can become a source of trauma, as the real world is far from perfect 1 2.

       

    Influence of Childhood

    Reflecting on their childhoods, Mark and Jeremy explore how early experiences shape adult lives. Mark recalls the confusion and pain of his early romantic encounters, while Jeremy notes that life is a series of hurtful experiences to learn from. They discuss how childhood traumas often become prisons that we keep reliving, affecting our choices and relationships as adults.

    We get hurt so deeply that we alter our entire existence moving forward to avoid that pain again.

    ---

    This cycle of pain and avoidance underscores the importance of developing the skills to break free from past traumas 3 4.

       

    Lessons from Parents

    The lessons learned from parents play a crucial role in shaping one's approach to relationships and self-trust. Jeremy and Mark discuss how their parents' actions, both good and bad, have influenced their own behaviors and beliefs. Jeremy highlights the importance of letting go of past mistakes and not shaming oneself for actions taken with less knowledge.

    Don't shame the part of you that woke you up.

    ---

    They also touch on the development of self-trust, emphasizing that knowing oneself in difficult situations builds resilience and confidence 1 5.

Related Episodes