#297: Awakening to Right Relationship with Self with Jayson Gaddis

Narcissism

Jayson Gaddis discusses the complexities of covert narcissism and borderline personality disorder. He explains that both conditions stem from early developmental issues, often related to the mother-child relationship. These disorders manifest differently in relationships, with covert narcissists being particularly challenging due to their deep-seated shame and defensive behaviors 1. Mark Groves adds that covert narcissists can be extremely aggressive and manipulative, making it difficult for their partners to leave 2.

The COVID person has deep fucking shame and this huge wall around that shame to defend against it.

--- Jayson Gaddis

Understanding these dynamics is crucial for effective therapy and personal growth.

   

Boundaries

Valuing oneself and setting boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. Mark Groves emphasizes that boundaries are the greatest expression of self-value, especially for those who grew up with low standards of respect and safety. He suggests that being in the company of people who live by these values can help individuals make significant life changes 3.

There's no greater expression of self-value than a boundary and boundaries around standards.

--- Mark Groves

Jayson Gaddis agrees, noting that community support is vital for personal transformation.

   

Healing

Healing through relationships and community is a recurring theme. Mark Groves shares his experience of finding safety and clarity through group work, where emotional experiences like grief and rage are processed in a supportive environment. This collective healing often leads to profound personal transformation 4.

Here I was with basically seven men I didn't know, and one I did and felt just like this safety, ironically, to be witnessed, but to also witness myself in that process.

--- Mark Groves

Jayson Gaddis adds that such group settings can offer a sense of being truly seen and understood, which is crucial for healing.