#210: How to Deepen Intimacy and Keep the Spark Alive with Aubrey Marcus

Intimacy Tech

Aubrey Marcus introduces the concept of intimacy technologies, emphasizing the importance of presence and novelty in relationships. He explains that these technologies are not about gadgets but about practices like psychedelic medicines, communication techniques, and sexual practices that foster deep connection 1. Aubrey highlights the need for flexibility and the ability to find depth and novelty in various practices to sustain monogamy without suffering 2.

   

Communication

Effective communication is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. Aubrey discusses the importance of interpersonal communication technologies and practices that keep relationships fresh and alive 3. He shares his experience with non-monogamy and how it led him to understand the need for deeper communication and connection in monogamous relationships 4.

   

Keeping Spark

Maintaining the spark in a long-term relationship requires commitment and intentional practices. Aubrey emphasizes the importance of radical commitment and the foundational agreements that support a lasting relationship 5. He also shares his personal journey of embracing the darkness and learning to live fully and love unconditionally 6.