#239: Healing Through Infidelity with Rainier Wylde & Kristi Born

Past Influence

Past experiences, including previous relationships and personal history, play a significant role in shaping current relationships. Rainier Wylde explains that people often jump into new relationships to signal they are healed, using them as a Band-Aid for unresolved issues 1. Kristi Born adds that both she and Rainier had secrets and unworthiness issues, which they had to confront to build a healthier relationship 2.

One of the interesting things is, again, these groves that we play is that there was a lot of secrets for Rainier. And I was a great secret keeper, like in terms of avoidance.

--- Kristi Born

Addressing these past issues is crucial for genuine connection and growth.

   

Evolving Roles

Roles within a relationship can evolve over time, driven by various factors such as family dynamics and personal growth. Kristi Born shares how she and Rainier initially fell into traditional roles, which led to a disconnect 3. They later realized the importance of conscious living and redefined their roles to better support each other.

This tells you so much about unconscious living. We go to this tattoo parlor right off the strip, and we're thinking to ourselves, oh, my God, let's do this. Let's put our names down upon our flesh.

--- Rainier Wylde

Rediscovering their connection allowed them to create a more balanced and fulfilling partnership.