#330: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents with Dr. Stan Tatkin

Rekindling Intimacy

Rekindling intimacy after becoming new parents can be challenging, as Dr. Stan Tatkin explains. He emphasizes that intimacy should be about presence and attention, rather than trying to replicate past experiences. "The real truth is that sex changes over time, no matter what, because we're moving through time, we're changing constantly," he notes 1. This shift requires partners to understand and adapt to each other's needs, especially considering the physical and emotional changes post-pregnancy 2.

   

Deepening Intimacy

Deepening intimacy involves embracing presence and emotional connection, which Dr. Stan Tatkin likens to improvisation. He suggests that many couples fall into the trap of repeating past patterns, leading to boredom and disconnection. "Most people want to do what's in their head or want to repeat what they've done before," he says, highlighting the importance of growing and grieving losses to move forward 3. This approach allows couples to not only regain intimacy but potentially reach deeper levels than before, fostering a stronger partnership.