#028: Why She Can’t Feel You with Traver Boehm

Masculinity Redefined

Traver Boehm discusses the need for a new paradigm of masculinity, moving beyond the traditional stereotypes of the stoic Marlboro Man and the overly sensitive Nice Guy. He argues that men should embrace both their primal instincts and divine consciousness to achieve a balanced identity 1. This integration allows men to be both strong and emotionally aware, challenging the societal norms that have long dictated male behavior.

We have this primal nature as men. We have this idea of protection, provision, of getting out there and fucking shit up in the world. And we need a massive dose of consciousness.

--- Traver Boehm

Mark Groves adds that societal expectations often lead men to suppress their true desires, resulting in aggression and emotional disconnection 2.

   

Emotional Barriers

Overcoming emotional barriers is crucial for men to connect with their authentic selves. Traver explains that societal conditioning often prevents men from expressing vulnerability, leading to a fear of therapy and emotional exploration 3. He shares his own experience with therapy, initially viewing it as a foreign and uncomfortable realm, but eventually recognizing its value in developing emotional language and communication skills.

I went to therapy with her, and I remember my therapeutic, I remember the first time my ex wife and I went to therapy, and the therapy looked at me and says, you have PTSD from professional fighting.

--- Traver Boehm

Mark Groves highlights the stigma associated with therapy, noting that many men view it as a sign of weakness rather than an opportunity for growth 4.

   

Transformation

Traver's personal journey through unexpected transitions illustrates the transformative power of embracing emotional vulnerability. He recounts the simultaneous end of his marriage and business partnership, which served as a catalyst for his personal growth 5. These experiences forced him to confront his emotional disconnection and ultimately led to a deeper understanding of himself and his desires.

I had a kick about eight months before that my wife would leave. My ex wife would leave because she kept trying to start a business and kept trying and kept trying and kept trying.

--- Traver Boehm

Mark Groves emphasizes the importance of listening to one's intuition and recognizing when change is necessary for personal development 5.