#424: The Best Codependency Advice You'll Hear This Year

Raising Frequencies

Shifting personal frequencies can significantly impact relationships. Mark Groves explains that maintaining higher frequencies, such as curiosity and optimism, can transform one's universe for the better 1. He emphasizes the importance of taking care of one's own energy and boundaries, as Terri Cole would say, to ensure personal growth and relationship harmony 2.

Either they rise and meet you or it is so abundantly clear. It's, it's. I mean, I'm not saying it's easy, but it's an easy decision.

--- Mark Groves

Groves notes that as individuals elevate their frequencies, their partners often rise to match them, leading to healthier dynamics or the realization that it's time to move on 1.

   

Relationship Shifts

Changing personal energies can lead to significant shifts in relationship dynamics. Stephen Porges discusses how non-contingent relationships, where one cannot regulate the other side, can trigger fear and powerlessness in the nervous system 3. This unpredictability can lead to feelings of resentment and dysregulation, as Mark Groves shares from his own experiences 3.

I feel powerless because the way I operate in relationship to it is giving away my experience of discernment and choice and power.

--- Mark Groves

Groves highlights the importance of reclaiming personal power and discernment to navigate these shifts effectively, ensuring healthier and more balanced relationships 3.