#442: Rewiring Relationship Patterns: Mike Elliott on Overcoming Trauma

Parenting Dynamics

Parenting is a profound journey that can reveal unresolved childhood issues and trigger personal growth. Mike Elliott emphasizes the importance of a healthy partnership between parents, as it creates a regulated environment that benefits children. He notes, "Magic happens when we're regulated," highlighting how a strong parental bond fosters a sense of safety and security for children 1. Mark Groves adds that modern family systems often leave parents, especially mothers, feeling under-resourced. He suggests using positive strategies like meditation and nature walks to build resilience at home 2.

   

Healing Connection

Engaging with children can facilitate healing of personal childhood traumas. Mark Groves and Mike Elliott discuss how parenting can mirror unresolved issues, offering opportunities for healing. Mike shares a poignant moment with his son, where he realized, "The healing is happening in the present moment. Connection," as he held his son and grieved his own unmet needs 3. This process of reflection allows parents to understand their children's needs better and break the cycle of hurt 4. Mark highlights the importance of being curious about one's reactions to parenting challenges, using them as gateways to personal growth 5.