Unlocking Secure Attachment: The Nervous System's Role in Our Relationships with Sarah Baldwin

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Regulation vs. Coping
Understanding the distinction between regulation and coping is crucial for emotional health. explains that regulation involves actively managing the nervous system to create a sense of safety, while coping often serves as a temporary relief from stress without addressing the underlying issues 1. She emphasizes the importance of teaching children self-regulation skills, allowing them to experience their own capabilities while providing a secure environment 2. Baldwin notes, "Our whole culture is built on coping strategies," highlighting the need to shift towards regulation for lasting emotional well-being 1.
Polyvagal Theory
Polyvagal theory offers profound insights into how our nervous system influences attachment and emotional responses. describes it as the foundation of attachment theory, explaining how our autonomic nervous system reacts to early childhood experiences and shapes our relational behaviors 3. She highlights the role of the sympathetic nervous system in maintaining closeness and safety, especially in anxious attachment styles 4. Baldwin reassures listeners, "Neuroscience tells us that feeling broken is not true," emphasizing the potential for healing through understanding these systems 5.
Regulation Techniques
Emotional regulation techniques are vital for improving mental health and attachment security. Baldwin introduces the concept of internal co-regulation, where individuals learn to self-soothe by balancing their adult and child selves 6. She advocates for taking "tolerable steps" to gradually build self-regulation capacity, even if these steps initially feel uncomfortable 7. Baldwin explains, "The story of your attachment is held in your body," underscoring the importance of somatic work in healing attachment wounds and fostering healthier relationships 8.
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