#155: How You Relate Is Your Responsibility - Solo Episode

Inherited Patterns

Mark Groves discusses the significance of recognizing and uncovering inherited relational patterns and trauma. He explains that many people resist exploring these patterns because it can be painful to confront past self-abandonment and autopilot behaviors. However, understanding these inherited patterns can create more space in our relational experiences, allowing us to break free from unconscious programs and historical trauma 1.

If your parents navigated conflict and relationship this way or didn't, you are likely to do the same, or the exact opposite.

--- Mark Groves

By examining these patterns, we can make conscious choices about how we want to show up in our relationships and what we want to change 2.

   

Altering Biases

Groves emphasizes the power of understanding and altering our unconscious biases and inherited programs. He likens the mind to a computer, where we have the choice to keep or reject the programs we learned growing up 2. This awareness allows us to align with our true authentic selves and manage conflicts in healthier ways.

You do not have to tolerate shit you were taught to tolerate from others and from yourself.

--- Mark Groves

By exploring and changing these programs, we can support ourselves through transformation and create more fulfilling relationships 1.