#397: How to Know When It’s Time to Leave a Job or a Relationship

Breaking Patterns

Mark Groves discusses the challenge of breaking toxic relationship patterns inherited from our parents. He emphasizes that many people stay in unhealthy relationships because they have never witnessed someone successfully leave one. This lack of role models perpetuates cycles of toxicity and makes it difficult to envision a different way of relating 1.

When we finally get tired of a pattern, that's when things change sometimes.

--- Mark Groves

Mark also highlights the importance of recognizing when it's time to let go of a relationship, even if it means facing the fear of the unknown 2.

   

Community and Love

Mark explores how community and conditional love can trap individuals in toxic relationships. He points out that many communities and religions preach unconditional love but often withdraw support when someone steps outside the accepted norms. This conditional love can lead to feelings of abandonment at the times when support is most needed 1.

We love you under the conditions that you obey the laws and rules of our relating.

--- Mark Groves

He also stresses the need for creating safety in relationships, both emotionally and psychologically, to break free from old patterns and build healthier dynamics 3.