#427: Vengeance is Grief in Disguise: Letting Go, Moving Forward & Opening Your Heart to Joy Again

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Social Media
Social media's impact on mental health is profound, as explains the constant social risk and anxiety it creates. He highlights how the need for validation on platforms like Instagram can mirror personal wounds, such as seeking approval from a parent 1. This longing for validation often leaves individuals feeling empty despite the illusion of connection 2.
There's no social risk. Neither of us can be canceled. We can't get in trouble. Nothing can happen to us. Humans are constantly assessing, am I safe? And am I safe to be me?
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Groves emphasizes the importance of assessing one's feelings towards social media rather than eliminating it entirely.
Digital Dependency
Digital dependency disrupts our ability to be present, as notes the addictive nature of devices that hijack dopamine pathways and impact sleep 3. He describes how social media and digital interactions often replace real-life connections, leading to a crisis of connection 4.
When we can't put our phone down, our phone owns us. When we can't put a drug down, the drug owns us.
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Groves suggests creating personal boundaries with technology to foster genuine connections and presence.
Authentic Connections
Fostering authentic connections requires a conscious effort to separate digital personas from real-life interactions. shares his journey of differentiating his personal identity from his online presence, emphasizing the importance of self-worth beyond digital validation 5. He reflects on personal experiences that highlight the need for compassion and understanding in relationships, even when faced with conflict 6.
If a relationship ends, that does not mean you're invaluable. If someone cheats on you, it doesn't mean you're invaluable.
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Groves encourages embracing one's truth and creating connections that honor personal integrity and authenticity.
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