Published Jul 31, 2023

How to Help Men Be More Emotive | Dr. Mindy & Mark Groves

Dr. Mindy Pelz and Mark Groves discuss radical responsibility, effective communication, and redefining masculinity, emphasizing how vulnerability and emotional connection can lead to healthier, more authentic relationships.
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  • Vulnerability

    and discuss the importance of vulnerability in redefining masculinity and personal growth. Mark emphasizes the need for men to engage in self-love practices like exercise and meditation to maintain their vitality and emotional well-being 1. He also highlights the significance of humor in dealing with vulnerability, stating that finding joy and humor in our mistakes helps us let go of them 1.

    One thing that I've found in my own experience is that I allow people to feel into the vulnerable things but then find the humor in their experience.

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    Mindy adds that many women wish their partners would attend therapy with them, but often face resistance. She suggests that men might benefit from joining men's groups to open up emotionally 2.

       

    Gender Norms

    The conversation shifts to how society can support the rebranding of traditional gender norms. notes that subtle cues often groom boys for patriarchal roles, while girls receive compliments on their appearance, shaping their self-perception 3. Mark discusses the concept of toxic masculinity and the need for men to redefine masculinity on their own terms, free from societal expectations 4.

    Emotionality is a human experience. It is not male or female.

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    He emphasizes that emotional expression should be seen as a human trait rather than a gendered one, encouraging both men and women to break free from traditional norms 4.

       

    Socialization

    The impact of socialization on men's emotional expression is another key topic. shares her experience of teaching her son to maintain eye contact during conflicts to ensure he felt heard, highlighting the importance of early emotional education 5. Mark explains that many men struggle with emotional language due to unprocessed feelings and societal conditioning 6.

    The process of putting words to feelings is like a toddler learning language.

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    He suggests that creating space through language can help men accept their complex emotional nature and express themselves more freely 6.

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