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Published Aug 18, 2020

#104: Finding Love For Independent Women with Christine Chang

Christine Chang, celebrity photographer and author, delves into the complexities of finding love as an independent woman, highlighting the essential roles of authenticity, emotional safety, and balanced power dynamics in relationships. Through her personal journey and insights from her book "SHOW UP", she offers guidance on achieving emotional clarity and fulfilling relationship needs.
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  • Emotional Openness

    Christine Chang explores the challenges independent women face in being emotionally available for relationships. She shares her personal journey of overcoming emotional guardedness, which often led her to pursue emotionally unavailable partners. Christine emphasizes the importance of doing the inner work to recognize and appreciate potential partners, as she did with her husband, Pete.

    Emotionally unavailable because it was safer. Intimacy scared me, so I was afraid to be seen.

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    Mark Groves and Christine discuss how a strong identity outside of relationships can sometimes lead to emotional walls, making it difficult to open up to love 1 2.

       

    Balancing Needs

    Balancing independence with relationship needs is a key theme in Christine's book. She highlights the importance of clarity in understanding one's desires and the necessity of healing from past hurts to foster genuine connections. Christine recounts her own struggle with allowing others to help her, a common challenge for independent women, and how embracing support can lead to deeper relationships.

    Letting them help you is basically letting them love you.

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    Mark Groves acknowledges the systemic factors that have shaped the identity of independent women, emphasizing the need for interdependence rather than isolation 3 4.

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