Red Flags, Defense Mechanisms
Mark and Jeff discuss their inherited defense mechanisms and how they impact their relationships. They explore the importance of humility and self-awareness in navigating these red flags.In this clip
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What does it mean when you realize you may have been making a mistake or taking criticism in a negative or defensive way on a project, as discussed in episode 466: How to Cope with a Dying, Narcissistic Parent | Feedback Friday and the clip Getting What You Deserve? I'm feeling frustrated because I thought I showed myself okay, but it could have still been perceived differently. I'm also annoyed because, while I was responsive and thankful, I felt dismissed by a manager who often asserts herself in the middle of presentations without letting me continue. This makes it very different from my interactions with everyone else, who love me, and I love them. I'm going to change how I've been acting, but will this change help her loosen her resistance too? Despite getting a return offer, I'm feeling like I've had a negative impression on everyone and done a horrible job this summer. What is this feeling?
What does it mean when you realize you may have been making a mistake or taken criticism in a negative or defensive way on a project, as discussed in the episode 225: Kim Scott | Care Personally, Challenge Directly with Radical Candor? Also, how can I adjust my attitude toward a manager who rarely gives me the space to explain and often asserts herself in the middle of presentations, as mentioned in the clip Mastery vs. Adaptability? I'm just an intern, but it's not obvious; everyone else loves me, and I love them. It's just this one person, and I need to change my attitude. I'm proud that I recognize I need to adjust to her behavior. Will this change help her loosen her resistance too?
What does it mean when you realize you may have been making a mistake or taken criticism in a negative or defensive way on a project, as discussed in the episode 225: Kim Scott | Care Personally, Challenge Directly with Radical Candor? How should I approach my relationship with one manager at work who rarely gives me the space to explain and often asserts herself in the middle of presentations? I'm going to change how I've been acting—I'm just an intern, but it's not obvious; everyone else loves me, and I love them. She has a different approach, and while it's useful in some ways, it's also frustrating. I'm proud that I recognize I need to adjust to her behavior. Will changing my approach help her loosen her resistance too?