Understanding Relationship Patterns
Julie explains how patterns of communication, buried conflicts, and unmet needs can lead to resentment and emotional injuries in relationships. She also discusses how early trauma and past relationships can compound the impact on current relationships. The growing distance and loneliness can create vulnerability to affairs, as partners seek attention and validation elsewhere. Negative comparisons and lack of open conversation can further contribute to the breakdown of a relationship.In this clip
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The Mark Groves Podcast
#024: The Trauma of Infidelity with Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman
Related Questions
My partner doesn't seem to think it's healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. Is this a healthy way to communicate in a relationship?
How does trauma affect individuals as discussed in the episode #024: The Trauma of Infidelity with Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and the clip Healing Through Connection?
I have a question about this episode #550: How to Strengthen Your Marriage Against Divorce and this clip Overcoming Negative Interpretations. My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. What should I do in this situation?