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Published Nov 26, 2018

#003: Navigating Relationships and Codependency with Ivy Kwong

Licensed therapist Ivy Kwong delves into the complexities of relationships, offering transformative strategies for setting boundaries, healing childhood trauma, and building self-esteem to break free from codependency. Her insights on emotional intimacy and self-love provide practical tools for fostering healthier, more authentic connections.
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  • Self-Esteem

    Building self-esteem is crucial for setting boundaries and maintaining healthy relationships. emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's inherent value and being honest about personal likes, dislikes, and needs. adds that self-awareness and integrity are key components of self-esteem, helping individuals to stay true to themselves and their values 1. Ivy suggests journaling as a method to explore and express one's true self, which can be daunting but is essential for personal growth 2.

    Realizing that you deserve to be here, no more, no less than anyone else, and cultivating that by these next, I guess, few steps. So all of it is not codependency. It's all interdependent, right? As we are.

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    Mark shares a personal anecdote about the importance of asking what one needs from a relationship, highlighting the journey towards self-discovery and self-esteem 2.

       

    Codependency

    Overcoming codependency involves understanding its roots and learning to prioritize one's own needs. Ivy defines codependency as the 'disease of the lost self,' where individuals mold themselves to gain love and acceptance, often losing their identity in the process 3. Mark and Ivy discuss the common patterns of codependency, such as people-pleasing and self-abandonment, which can lead to resentment and exhaustion 4.

    Codependency is the disease of the lost self. So, meaning maybe when you were little, you were taught that how you are is not acceptable. And in order to receive love and attention, you have to be a certain way, do a certain thing.

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    They highlight the importance of recognizing and breaking these patterns to foster healthier relationships and self-worth 4.

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