#212: Hug Your Inner Child with Violet Benson

Attachment Styles

Violet Benson and Mark Groves explore their personal experiences with attachment styles, revealing how these patterns influence their relationships. Violet shares her struggle with avoidant attachment, often feeling overwhelmed by closeness and retreating to solitude, despite her confidence in being alone 1. Mark reflects on his own avoidant tendencies, acknowledging how they have impacted his connections in the past 2. They discuss the cyclical nature of attachment styles, where past experiences shape current relationship dynamics, and the challenge of breaking free from these patterns 3.

It's really beautiful work, I think another really interesting thing as people who have either of those styles is that, for example, my type of attachment style, which is avoidant attachment style, I end up being drawn to other people with avoidant attachment style versus anxious attachment style.

--- Violet Benson

This introspection highlights the importance of understanding one's attachment style to foster healthier relationships.

   

Dating Dynamics

Navigating dating with complex attachment styles presents unique challenges, as Mark and Violet discuss. They highlight how anxious and avoidant individuals often find themselves in a push-pull dynamic, complicating intimacy and connection 4. Mark points out how societal constructs, like reality dating shows, exacerbate these issues by creating unrealistic expectations and competition 5. Violet candidly admits to feeling suffocated by those who express too much interest, revealing her fear of losing freedom and being vulnerable 6.

People who like me too much is hard for me to deal with.

--- Violet Benson

These insights underscore the importance of self-awareness and communication in overcoming relationship hurdles.