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Published Dec 11, 2023

#331: Tell Yourself a Better Lie with Marisa Peer

Delve into the transformative power of the mind with Marisa Peer as she uncovers how childhood experiences shape self-worth, introduces 'better lies' to boost mental health, and reveals the power of neuroplasticity and hypnotherapy in reprogramming our thoughts and unlocking potential.
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  • Trauma Effects

    explains how traumatic experiences, even outside the family, can deeply impact a child's self-worth. She highlights that children can face molestation, bullying, or negative remarks from teachers, which they often hide from their parents 1. shares his own childhood experience of struggling with social hierarchy and weight issues, which led to coping mechanisms like using sugar 1. Marisa emphasizes that these coping mechanisms can persist into adulthood, manifesting in behaviors like people-pleasing or always being late 1.

    You play the only part you've ever known until that part becomes your own, which means you learn what you live.

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    She believes that understanding and addressing these patterns can be simple, especially with the help of hypnosis.

       

    Unconditional Love

    Marisa stresses the importance of unconditional love in fostering high self-worth in children. She advises parents to love their children for who they are, not for their achievements or similarities to themselves 2. This approach helps children feel valued and supported, regardless of their interests or abilities. explains that children are individuals with their own likes and dislikes, and parents should respect and nurture these differences.

    You got to break this belief that they are your kids to be molded into you. They're not. They're people with their own likes, nothing like you.

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    Ultimately, she believes that fostering a great friendship with your children is the key to their healthy development.

       

    Subtle Harm

    Even seemingly positive childhoods can create low self-worth through subtle messages. explains that conditional praise, such as loving a child for their beauty or intelligence, can lead to lifelong pressure to meet those standards 3. This can result in issues like workaholism, eating disorders, and various fears and phobias. adds that these subtle expectations can make children feel they must constantly achieve to be loved.

    If your kid has an interest that you don't have, don't poo poo it. You got to let your kids be totally different to you.

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    Marisa emphasizes the need for unconditional love and acceptance to prevent these negative outcomes.

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