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Published Sep 28, 2023

#314: It’s on You! Radical Healing with Dr. Sara Kuburic

Dr. Sara Kuburic, existential psychotherapist, shares insights on radical healing by taking responsibility for one's own well-being, discussing self-loss, self-awareness, and mindfulness to reclaim an authentic life and foster personal growth.
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  • Self-Loss

    introduces the concept of self-loss, describing it as self-estrangement and a lack of congruence and alignment. She defines self-loss as the failed responsibility to be oneself, highlighting the importance of recognizing and addressing this issue 1. To illustrate this, she shares an anecdote from the movie "Runaway Bride," where the protagonist discovers her true preferences by trying different things and paying attention to her own desires 2. This process of self-discovery involves decluttering the mind and being intimate with one's thoughts, emotions, and body.

    Sometimes you're just going to have to go quiet enough to hear yourself, to go, okay, I'm doing this. What does this look like?

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    By understanding self-loss, individuals can begin the journey toward reclaiming their authentic selves.

       

    Defining Self

    Defining the self is a complex task that tackles by breaking it down into choice, responsibility, and freedom. She argues that the self is not a pre-constructed entity but something created through our actions and decisions 3. This perspective challenges the notion of passively finding oneself and instead emphasizes the active role individuals must play in shaping their identities. and Sara discuss how religion and societal norms can sometimes hijack this process by prescribing a set way of living, thus alleviating personal responsibility 4.

    I think you create your sense of self. I think your sense of self is ever evolving, ever changing.

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    Taking responsibility for one's choices and actions is crucial in the ongoing creation and understanding of the self.

       

    Authentic Living

    Living authentically involves exploring and embracing one's true self, a process that describes as both challenging and liberating. She emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's own healing and happiness, even in the face of past traumas 5. This journey requires individuals to discern what truly aligns with their values and desires, rather than conforming to external expectations 6.

    The only person that can save me is me.

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    By taking radical responsibility and making intentional choices, individuals can create a life that is genuinely fulfilling and aligned with their authentic selves.

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