#395: The Connection Between Boundaries and Clean Anger

Clean Anger

Kylie McBeath and Mark Groves explore the concept of clean anger and its crucial role in setting boundaries. Kylie explains that clean anger helps us protect ourselves and assert our limits when boundaries are crossed or needs are unmet. Without access to this emotion, we struggle to set boundaries effectively.

Anger is like access to it. Yeah, you have access to your power. It's like you need access to this anger because it says, like, no, that is not okay, or no, that doesn't work for me, or that's a no for my body.

--- Kylie McBeath

Mark adds that trusting our 'no' and 'yes' is essential for authentic relationships. He emphasizes that anger, often feared due to its association with aggression, is vital for drawing lines when boundaries are violated 1 2.

   

Personal Anger

Both hosts share their personal journeys with anger and its impact on their ability to set boundaries. Kylie recounts how she rediscovered anger in her thirties, which empowered her to assert her needs and boundaries. Mark reflects on his upbringing, where he was taught to suppress anger, leading to a lack of boundaries.

I remember the first time I ever did, like, an anger exercise at a men's retreat, facing a bunch of men. And not only did the anger come out, but then a bunch of grief did, too.

--- Mark Groves

They both agree that embracing anger is essential for creating safe and authentic relationships, as it allows individuals to express their true selves and establish trust 1 2.