#014: The Evolution of Men with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg

Emotional Fluency

The conversation begins with the importance of emotional fluency for men. Jeremy Goldberg highlights the societal shifts and the need for men to adapt by developing better emotional communication skills. Mark Groves agrees, noting that men are being asked to make their old upper limit their new floor, emphasizing the urgency of this evolution 1. They also discuss the impact of the #MeToo movement and the necessity for men to speak up about their emotions and mental health 2.

Men are being asked to level up and learn to communicate very quickly and go against socialization.

--- Mark Groves

This shift is crucial for fostering healthier relationships and a more just society.

   

Personal Responsibility

The discussion then moves to personal responsibility, with Mark Groves and Jeremy Goldberg reflecting on their own journeys. Jeremy emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's power to influence their life and taking responsibility for their emotions and actions 3. Mark adds that men must take risks in speaking their truth, even if it means saying the wrong thing initially 4.

My experience of reality is entirely determined by the lenses that I use to view the world and the people around me.

--- Jeremy Goldberg

This approach helps men to grow and improve their mental health.

   

Overcoming Shame

Finally, they address overcoming shame, a significant barrier to personal growth. Mark shares his experiences of writing to ex-girlfriends to acknowledge past mistakes, highlighting the vulnerability required to confront shame 5. Jeremy agrees, noting that many limiting stories stem from fear, unworthiness, or shame, and that open conversations are essential for healing 6.

Everybody's doing the best they can and really giving each other permission to make mistakes.

--- Jeremy Goldberg

By embracing these discussions, men can evolve and support each other in their journeys.