#063: Bringing Cheating Out of the Shadows with Connor Beaton

Duality

Connor Beaton's childhood was marked by the duality of living between two distinct family systems. His parents divorced when he was three, and both remarried, creating two separate but seemingly identical family units. This unique upbringing left him feeling like an outsider, constantly searching for his true identity through various activities like yoga, construction, and opera singing 1.

I was looking out in my life through doing yoga, working construction, singing opera, riding a thousand CC motorcycle, driving a Mustang.

--- Connor Beaton

This sense of duality and exploration played a significant role in shaping his early years.

   

Career

Connor's career path was equally diverse, driven by a quest for wholeness and self-discovery. After high school, he worked in construction but found it unfulfilling. Encouraged by his father, he explored music and discovered a talent for opera singing, eventually earning a degree in music and performing internationally 2.

I was seeking a sense of integration, of wholeness, and I was just doing it through these external means of sort of trying out everything that I could to find a sense of what is me and what's not me.

--- Connor Beaton

Despite his success, he realized that the opera lifestyle wasn't for him, leading him to continue his search for a fulfilling career.

   

Realizations

Significant moments of realization marked Connor's journey, particularly during times of deep personal struggle. He recalls a pivotal night in a Walmart parking lot when he contemplated taking his own life, a moment that scared him into seeking change. This experience, coupled with the support of a mentor, set him on a new trajectory 3.

I remember laying there and I was looking out the window at the stars and in a Walmart parking lot and thinking to myself, is this it?

--- Connor Beaton

These dark moments allowed him to shed false identities and begin constructing his true self.