#324: How to Somatically Rewire Your Past to Create Secure Attachment with Sarah Baldwin

Co-Regulation

Internal co-regulation is a powerful tool for aligning different parts of ourselves to achieve emotional balance. Sarah Baldwin explains that this involves recognizing when our nervous system is reacting from a younger part of ourselves and using our adult self to bring comfort and regulation to that part. This process helps create new, safe experiences that can transform our emotional responses.

When we do that, that gets imprinted as a new, safe experience.

--- Sarah Baldwin

By understanding and practicing internal co-regulation, we can expand our capacity for connection and change the stories our nervous system tells us 1 2.

   

Attunement

Attunement plays a crucial role in self-regulation by allowing us to connect with others while maintaining our own emotional stability. Sarah Baldwin describes attunement as the ability to match another's emotional state without losing our own sense of regulation. This involves holding a metaphorical rope to our own regulation while dipping into the other person's emotional experience.

My job is to hold the rope and I'm dipping into that feeling with you.

--- Sarah Baldwin

This practice ensures that we can guide others back to a regulated state without becoming dysregulated ourselves, fostering healthier emotional interactions 3 4.