#048: Why You Can’t Just “Get Over It” with Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Emotional Physiology

Emotions are fundamental physiological responses that have evolved to ensure our survival. Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains that emotions are not just mental states but are deeply rooted in our physical experiences. They are automatic and unconscious, designed to protect us by prompting quick reactions to danger or opportunities 1. She emphasizes that suppressing emotions can lead to illness, as they are essential for our well-being. Mark Groves adds that ignoring or avoiding emotions often results in anxiety and depression, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and processing them 2.

   

Brain Science

The scientific understanding of emotions reveals their automatic and unconscious nature. Hilary discusses how emotions are processed in the brain, particularly in areas beyond our conscious control. This understanding challenges the notion that we can simply "get over" emotions through willpower 3. She explains that emotions are deeply embedded in our brain's structure, and working with them rather than against them can lead to healthier mental states. Mark notes that traditional psychotherapy often overlooks the physical aspect of emotions, which is crucial for effective healing 4.

   

Core Emotions

Recognizing core emotions is vital for mental and physical well-being. Hilary identifies core emotions such as sadness, anger, and joy, which are often suppressed due to societal conditioning. Suppressing these emotions can lead to symptoms like anxiety and depression 5. She explains that understanding and validating these emotions can reduce anxiety and promote emotional health. Mark highlights the importance of experiencing emotions safely, which can be learned through emotional education and practice 6.